5.0 out of 5 stars The single best book on codependency out there!

M. · 8 August 2016

(function() { P.when('cr-A', 'ready').execute(function(A) { if(typeof A.toggleExpanderAriaLabel === 'function') { A.toggleExpanderAriaLabel('review_text_read_more', 'Read more of this review', 'Read less of this review'); } }); })(); .review-text-read-more-expander:focus-visible { outline: 2px solid #2162a1; outline-offset: 2px; border-radius: 5px; } I cannot emphasize enough how grateful I am to have come across this book and how grateful I am to Darlene Lancer for having shared her knowledge, wisdom and compassion with readers like me. I feel like this is the book that I've needed so much at difficult times to make sense of what was going on in my most important relationships. Darlene writes with a profound sense of understanding, illuminating clarity and plenty of compassion. The focus of this book is very much on a recovery from co-dependency. There are plenty of practical tips and exercises. Darlene's book has given me hope that recovery is possible and has provided a structured, step-by-step solution, which was exactly what I have been looking for. This book offers life-changing insights. I cannot recommend it highly enough.

5.0 out of 5 stars Great book

P.S.G. · 9 August 2021

This book is a great resource for therapists as well as for people who want to change their relationships. I would highly recommend this book if you are serious about change.

5.0 out of 5 stars Helpful, practical and no nonsense

k. · 24 August 2020

I'm finding this a really helpful starting point for my journey into discovering myself and trying to break some of the patterns in my relationships. Set out in a logical format and accessible.

4.0 out of 5 stars looks okay

S. · 2 July 2017

someone was talking about this and I thought, as I am bonkers it might be the answer. Unfortunately you have o do the work. Ha! Ha! Seriously, looks clear and easy to follow. Just have to sit down with it and get on.

5.0 out of 5 stars This is an amazing book! Everyone should do the exercises!

B. · 3 July 2020

It's a book that is packed with loads of great content and exercises. I am pleased I bought it in paper back as I can see how it would be totally impossible to use as an audiobook. It's marvellous. Any one interested in psychology or in knowing themselves or others better should read it.

5.0 out of 5 stars Great book to aid in self development and healing

M.M. · 23 March 2022

This book has helped me in so many ways. I'm going to go through it a second time to go through all the activities. It encourages you to journal and be proactive in your healing. There are also great Web links that are dotted all over this book which are also extremely helpful.

5.0 out of 5 stars Read this and understand your past, and be given the bricks to build a future.

L.A. · 26 October 2019

This book has, without exaggeration, transformed my life. So much now makes sense. It's beautifully written; wise, intelligent, but warm and entertaining too. Thoroughly recommend!

5.0 out of 5 stars Concise and comprehensive

K. · 31 July 2018

Easy to get into yet contains expansive topics, on and related to, codependency.Clearly spells out what the symptoms to look for, and is great as a reference for afterwards.

Life-changing

K.C. · 7 January 2021

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Excellent Read and Resource

P. · 31 July 2024

Codependency is real; this book has helped me understand some of my behaviors and my people-pleasing tendencies.

Simple, insightful and helpful

N.M. · 30 March 2018

A book to understand yourself and people around you. Written in a easy to understand language. It opened up lots of insights in understanding self. It's definitely a must read.

Great comprehensive book

R.D. · 4 May 2025

I enjoyed this book and it's thorough explanation and treatment options. Some parts were unrelated to codependency specifically but seemed useful still.

Klar, strukturiert und lebensverändernd

D. · 20 July 2015

Ein hervorragend gutes Buch! Klar gegliedert im Aufbau, mit wertvollen Ratschlägen wie man sich selbst besser verstehen kann und was man nun mit diesem Wissen tun kann. Übersichtliche Tabellen und Checklisten sind sehr hilfreich. Sehr einfühlsam und doch sachlich - kein blabla. Die Autorin weiß wovon sie spricht und differenziert die vielen verschiedenen Formen von Co-Abhängigkeit sehr anschaulich. Enorm empfehlenswert für alle, die mutig ihr Leben reflektieren und ändern wollen. Wer sich mit Hilfe dieses Buches auf den Weg macht kann innerer Freiheit finden.In English:An excellent book! Clearly structured and with valuable advice on how to better understand yourself and what you can do now with this knowledge. The well-arranged tables and checklists are very helpful. Insightful and touching, yet to the point - no unnecessary verbiage. The author knows what she is talking about and vividly differentiates the many different forms of co-dependency. Recommended for everyone who wants to boldly reflect and change their lives. Anyone who is using this book can be found on the path of inner freedom.